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Not sure why you're getting downvoted but yes, this is true.

I don't want or need to talk to everyone, and I generally don't appreciate people I don't know or won't know in five minutes to engage me in idle chatter. Just leave me be.

I'm not a grouch, I'm not a grump, I'll be friendly but why do you have to harass me?

I'm perfectly comfortable in my own skin, doing my own thing, by myself. I don't have social anxiety, I'm not a misanthrope. Just let me be.

Introverts aren't broken. You don't have to impose yourself on everyone else.



As someone who works extensively with youth, but is somewhat of a extrovert..

There are many reasons why people are introverts. Some of them are "broken" and could use a fix, some are healthy and should not be touched.

If the source is a lack of confidence, it should be dealt with. Sometimes the fix involves pushing oneself to talk beyond their comfort level, sometimes not.

If the source is a form of ASD or Autism spectrum, then it depends very much on what the "introvertness" is costing them. If the person is either suffering or is living out of touch with reality, that's broken. Sometimes talking is absolutely required to create a fix. (Over here, even more-so, getting guidance is a must. Which is a shame since the more a person on the spectrum needs guidance the less he is likely to accept it)

If the source is an understanding of one's relative position (eg. at a meeting of seniors) then that's fine, but too much of that can be unhealthy.

If it's from depression, than please don't introvert. Get professional help.

If you are so into your phone that you've forgotten the joy of interaction with humans, that's broken. Unfortunately, there are a lot of people in this category, and social media and AI are making things worse. (Nothing new though - 30 years ago I helped a kid who was watching 18+ hours of video, on a CRT! He was mighty introverted, and wanted nothing to do with us humans for weeks after starting treatment.)

If you are just a confident guy/gal that just happens to enjoy your own space, than all the power to you! From what I have heard there are a LOT of people that fall into this category, and I have even meet two or three of you!

But let me stress, even if things are broken, the advice in this article can often make things worse. And if it's not a problem for you, enjoy!




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